I have a pretty unique relationship with my dad. I was adopted when I was much, much older — 17 — but truly, my dad is the only dad I have ever known, and he is a pretty spectacular one. He has listened to me crying, my nose running horrible, over a stupid boy. He has bought me motor oil when my car was overheating (once an entire case!). He has jumped my car and moved my crap and listened to me ramble and process the world out loud dozens upon dozens of times. Each of those moments means the world to me, and because of my relationship with him, I know I will marry a man who values me and treats me with respect. (I’ll be one of those girls whose father needs to give permission for me to be married because I value his input so much!) I also have a younger sister — she’s just seven — and watching their relationship really inspires me, too.
I was given the chance to review Daddy Dates: The Road Map for any Dad to Raise A Strong and Confident Daughter and I have to say, at first I thought it was a book about a dad dating another lady who wasn’t the girls’ mother. But no, this is actually a non-fiction book about what motivates one dad to maintain important, deep relationships with his four daughters.
I thought this book was really fantastic. While there are no explicit instructions on how to conduct a Daddy Date, Wright talks about how important it is to get to know your daughters while they are still young, and to carry that relationship on throughout their life. It seems like practical advice, but I know a lot of parents — and dads — who are more or less cut off from their girls, and it makes me sad.
Wright talks about how important these dates are to him and his girls, and while he says how much his girls love them, he also mentions several times that there are times when they butt heads with dear ol’ dad — but that’s totally normal, given the teenage years. He talks a lot about the importance of knowing who your daughter is because that will help you guide her through those years. And something that I really liked is that he talked about the idea of his girls being allowed to date while they are still in high school — and they aren’t. I believe he makes some really valid, good points as to why. My own parents didn’t place those restrictions on me (I was a senior when I was adopted) but I remember one really awkward date when I as 19 where we got in my date’s car and he said, “Um, I don’t mean to be rude but I still feel like they are in the car with us.” Yeah. My parents and Wright would have gotten along fantastically.
It’s kind of hard to be more specific that what I’ve already written: here’s a guide that explains why, when, and how, and it also really encourages dads to know their girls. Simple as that. We shouldn’t need books like this, but we do — so buy this for a new dad or a da of a young daughter for Father’s Day!
This book does come from a religious publisher, but I genuinely believe that any dad (or mom!) could read this book, regardless of religious background. There aren’t any references to Bible verses, and only a small handful of references to God in general.
One thing that I didn’t love about the book is that it can be repetitive, but it’s a book intended for dads, not for daughters, and from my experience (I love you, padre!), dads occasionally need a little, ahem, reinforcement with what they’ve been taught or told. That’s not enough to deter me from recommending this book to others!
(I received this book for free from BookSneeze for this review. I was asked to review this book fairly based on my own opinions and not asked to make a positive review in return for receiving the book, but an honest one.)